Why I’m Waiting for the Girl of My Dreams
Imagine a softly lit photograph—perhaps a misty morning landscape or an intimate close-up—in the bottom left corner, in elegant white script:
“Captured by Mitchell Royel”
And along the top edge, in a slim sans-serif font:
“Now Playing: ‘Turn to Stone’ by Ingrid Michaelson”
The two lines of text are semi-transparent, letting the image’s tones shine through, yet crisp enough to read. The overall effect feels like a moment paused in time, underscored by the gentle melancholy of Michaelson’s song.
Virginity isn’t a relic of outdated norms—it’s a profound expression of self-respect and divine design. I refuse to treat my body as a commodity or reduce my worth to fleeting pleasures. My commitment is rooted in the belief that our Creator ordained intimacy to be shared within the covenant of marriage—a sacred bond that reflects Christ’s relationship with His Church.
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.”
– 1 Corinthians 6:18
A Declaration of Self-Worth
I’ve made a conscious choice: no compromise, no shortcuts, and no apologies. In a culture that celebrates instant gratification, I choose disciplined restraint. I stand at a crossroads—one path leads to momentary thrills, the other to eternal fulfillment. I’ve elected the latter. Waiting isn’t passive; it’s a daily act of courage and conviction.
Why Virginity Matters
It Honors God’s Design
• Our bodies are temples—holy and set apart. When we safeguard our purity, we acknowledge God’s sovereignty over our lives.
• “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.”
– 1 Thessalonians 4:3It Protects Emotional Health
• Intimacy forged too soon can leave scars—regret, shame, unrealistic expectations.
• True emotional connection flourishes when two hearts commit first, then two bodies follow.It Prepares for Lasting Union
• Waiting cultivates patience, respect, and deep trust—essential foundations for marriage.
• Shared anticipation becomes a unique bond, strengthening the relationship before vows are ever spoken.
My Prayerful Expectation
I’m not waiting out of fear or naiveté. I’m waiting with purpose—praying fervently for the woman God has designed to walk beside me. I envision a partner who values faith over fame, depth over superficiality. She will share my convictions, challenge me to grow, and embrace our shared dream of lifelong commitment.
Anchored in Scripture
• “Blessed is the man who remains steadfast under trial, for when he has stood the test he will receive the crown of life.”
– James 1:12
• “Set me as a seal upon your heart… for love is strong as death.”
– Song of Solomon 8:6
These verses remind me that perseverance refines character, and that love grounded in conviction outlasts the fiercest storms.
A Call to My Generation
To my fellow young men and women: resist the lie that your value is tied to your sexual history. Our worth is inherent—rooted in being image-bearers of God. Victimhood is a choice. Success in relationships is forged through disciplined action and unwavering faith.
Looking Ahead with Hope
I refuse to settle for second best or to sacrifice my convictions for fleeting pleasure. I choose to honor God, preserve my dignity, and wait expectantly for the girl of my dreams. In that moment—when two hearts and two bodies unite—I believe we’ll glimpse a fraction of God’s intended glory for marital love.
Stay steadfast. Stay principled. And never compromise your convictions for momentary acceptance.
-Mitchell Royel