Treehouse: Winning Without Gesture —Why This Athleisure “Ambassador” Won't Shake Your Hand

Being here in Malibu and diving into the vibrant athleisure scene has been an eye-opening experience for me. I’ve always known about this brand, founded back in '98, but actually stepping into their world has taught me something important about competition and self-perception.

Growing up, I was all about sports—little league, travel games, and even high school ball. After every game, win or lose, my teammates and I would line up to shake hands with the other team. It was all about sportsmanship, right? But honestly, looking back, I regret that part of it. I mean, what’s the point?

I remember those moments vividly, standing there, sweaty and exhausted, forcing a smile while shaking hands with the other team. It felt like a hollow gesture, especially when I knew we had just put everything on the line to win. I’d look into the eyes of the opposing players, and instead of feeling camaraderie, I often felt resentment. Why should I acknowledge their effort when I was focused on my own victory?

These days, when I win—and trust me, I haven’t officially lost yet—I don’t shake hands anymore.

I think, why should I?

Some people might disagree with me, saying it’s about respect and camaraderie, but for me, it feels pointless. I’m not there to celebrate the other team’s effort when I’ve just put in the work to win.

I get it; it’s a tradition, and maybe it’s a good one for some. But in my mind, acknowledging the competition when I’m focused on my own success seems unnecessary. In the event that I do lose, I still find a way to win, even in structured, ruled environments, but I won’t get into that right now.

Being part of this athleisure culture, where it’s all about comfort and confidence, has made me rethink what it means to compete. I’ve been trying to embrace this vibe—stylish, comfortable, and unapologetically me. It’s refreshing to see how this culture encourages individuality and self-expression, and it’s made me realize that competition isn’t just about winning or losing; it’s also about how you carry yourself through the journey.

I’ve learned that it’s okay to prioritize my own journey and success over the expectations of others. It’s not about being rude or dismissive; it’s about understanding my own values and what it means to truly compete. I’m redefining what sportsmanship looks like for me, and in this world, I’m ready to carve out my own path, one that reflects who I am and what I stand for.

So, as I navigate this new scene and embrace the athleisure lifestyle, I’m also learning to balance my competitive spirit with a sense of respect for the journey itself. It’s a work in progress, but I’m excited to see where it takes me.

-Cheers to Living Life Fully and Dodging Mid-Life Crisis