Hailing the Genuine: Loving Girls with Integrity

Scripture Reading:

“Let your adorning not be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry—but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart… and let it be the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.”

– 1 Peter 3:3–4

Brothers and sisters, let me paint you a picture. Picture yourself standing on a dark city street—streetlights flickering, cars whizzing by. You’re in LA, so every vehicle could be your Uber ride to anywhere: Downtown, Santa Monica, or your ex’s DMs. You lift your arm, hailing a cab—hoping it’s the real deal, not some sketchy ride that leaves you stranded. This, my friends, is our romantic landscape.

We’re all hailing. We raise our hand at every swipe-right, every DM slide, every coffee-shop eye contact. But not every ride is genuine. Not every “girl” on the avenue is authentic. Some read from a script—lines rehearsed, intentions coached—like props in a stage play. And we—well, we sometimes hop in without checking the driver’s rating.

Scripture calls us to more than impulse. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 exhorts us: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality.” Sanctification means being set apart—choosing the genuine over the staged, the heart-level connection over the hollow performance.

Here’s the highbrow twist: loving girls “well” requires the same discernment we use when hailing a cab at midnight.

1. Check the Credentials. In those pre-Uber days, we looked for the medallion on the hood. In relationships, look for authenticity. Is her laughter spontaneous? Does her kindness extend beyond public posts? Authentic women don’t need a script—they live out their faith, their character starring in their daily walk.

2. Practice Self-Control. When that heart-thumping moment arrives—the way she’s leaning in, those late-night texts lighting up your screen—remember: you’re not desperate. Galatians 5:22–23 lists self-control as a fruit of the Spirit. True love isn’t an unfiltered feed; it’s a practiced restraint.

3. Value the Journey. A genuine ride isn’t just about the destination. It’s about the conversation with the driver, the trust that the meter runs fair. In relationships, value the slow build: shared prayers, honest conversations about dreams and wounds, times when you disagree but still pray together.

We laugh when our bro tries to use that cheesy pick-up line—but what if we skipped the lines altogether? What if our approach was an unfiltered “Hey, I see you. I respect you. I want to know your story, flaws and all.”

Authentic girls aren’t stage props. They’re co-pilots on a journey of faith. They don’t need you to script the romance. They need you to script your prayers. They need you to hail them not as an object, but as a daughter of the King—worthy of honor, dignity, and genuine care.

So next time you’re tempted to raise that metaphorical hand—ready to hail any vehicle that honks back—pause. Check the credentials. Practice self-control. Value the journey.

Brothers, love girls with integrity, not impulse. Seek authenticity, not performance. And in doing so, we honor God, uplift our sisters, and find a ride that leads us both safely home. Amen.